Party Rules

Accept the rules

Everyone that applies for a party and is accepted, must adhere to the rules or they will be ejected on the night and not invited to another party.

Be considerate

This goes without saying, be nice to everyone. Everyone is attending the parties to have a great night, meet some fun people and experience something new and fresh. We expect that people behave respectfully to each other. Speaking kindly and not inciting arguments. We suggest avoiding conversations about religion, football and politics!

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No means no 

Also goes without saying, but all the rules have to be said. 

If someone says no, asks you to stop or simply doesn't look like they are into it, you must walk away. We expect you to use good judgment and if someone is shrugging you off, you should leave them be. 

We will ask you to leave if someone complains or we see that you are not using your good judgment.

Treat people with kindness

Not everyone is going to be your cup of tea, even with us vetting people. We suggest you are kind if you want to reject someones advances, that your not attracted to.

Simply say 'No, thank you' or 'I'm/We're busy now, perhaps some another time'.​

We all know how to be kind and it can go a long way in making someone have a great time or an unpleasant time.

Intoxication

You cannot arrive to a party intoxicated or under the influence of drugs.

If we see that you are, you will not be admitted and you will not be eligible for a refund. 

We must protect everyone and this is simply a measure to ensure all have a great and safe night.

If you become intoxicated through the night, we have the right to remove you from the premises also.

Dress code

You are attending a sex party, most likely with the intention of attracting another couple or single person to have some fun with. 

Therefore we assume you want to look your best. This means no trainers (not even designer trainers), no sports wear or hoodies, no sandals or thongs or beach wear.

Smart party attire is essential, sexy and tasteful is preferred.

Women should consider a great party dress or skirt outfit with sexy heels.

Whilst Men should consider a collared shirt/top and stylish pants or jeans. 

Refunds

There are no refunds. Once you have been accepted and paid the attendance fee there are no refunds. Once we have the right mix of partygoers we will go about selecting the right venue and entertainment to ensure a great night for everyone. That can't be done if people change their mind.

Privacy

Privacy and security are of upmost importance. Providing you with a peace of mind is a vital element of an uninhibited night and we work hard to protect our events from unwanted intrusion. The locations of our events and the other arrangements are strictly private to Opium and our invited guests. You must not divulge them to third parties as this may compromise the privacy of all concerned.

Spying

Taking photographs, video or sound recordings at our parties is banned. Cameras and other recording devices are not allowed. You can bring a phone but it must be switched off and not used anywhere in the party, except at the end of the night to order a taxi. Even when you do this, it is your responsibility to make sure no one is alarmed or has cause to believe you are taking a recording of any kind, be that image or sound.

Arrive together and leave together

We do not accept single men into our parties. This is a non-negotiable.

Despite having paid, if a male arrives without a female his invitation is void. We never break this rule. A man cannot wait for his partner inside. If a woman has to leave during the party, her male partner must leave with her. That does not apply the other way around – single women are allowed, so a woman can stay if her male partner leaves.

No Swapping (before!)

Our party invitations are exclusive and non-transferable. Only those whose details and photo have been pre-submitted and approved will be granted entry. We pair guests as couples, and if you arrive with a different partner, your invitation will be invalidated. Rest assured, we'll have your photo on hand at the door

Don't bring your friends

Admittance will be granted solely to the couples we have extended invitations to. It wouldn't be fair to allow individuals who haven't undergone the same selection process as everyone else. If you wish for your friends to attend, they must follow the standard application procedure. We urge you not to challenge us on this matter, as we may need to rescind your own invitation.

Genuine couples only

We insist that the couples at our parties are ‘real’ couples – you must have a genuine sexual relationship, although it doesn’t have to be an exclusive one (obviously!). Friends who team up just to find out “what it’s like” are not acceptable. Nor are single girls who ask a male friend to chaperone them. Nor are single guys who blag a platonic female acquaintance into pretending to be a couple.

Guys must keep it straight

Our parties are for straight and bisexual female activity and straight male activity. This is the standard swinging convention across the world and reflects the consensus of opinion among both male and female swingers of all countries. This does not mean that couples with bisexual men are unwelcome. It means that when they apply, they explicitly agree that the male partner will be straight at the party.

Be considerate in the playroom

Please refrain from disrupting the enjoyment of others by engaging in loud conversations within the playrooms. Additionally, please avoid bringing glasses and beverages into these areas. Plastic water bottles provided at our parties are the only permissible drinks allowed in the play areas.

Don't be a nuisance

Avoid persistently approaching individuals who have not shown reciprocal interest. Be mindful of the reactions of fellow partygoers to your conduct. Ensure that you do not exert pressure or cause discomfort to other guests. Should someone voice concerns about their experience being compromised, we will take appropriate action.

Condoms are compulsory - It's a Man's responsibility

At our parties, all penetrative sex between people who are not regular partners must be with a condom, unless explicitly agreed otherwise in advance. It is a man’s responsibility to use a condom without being asked by the woman concerned and to communicate to her in an appropriate way that he is doing so.

It is a guy’s job to put a woman’s mind at ease without being asked. Everyone is absolutely entitled to expect this basic good hygiene.

We provide condoms but it would be wise to carry a few yourself.

One condom per female

Men must change condoms between sexual partners. If there is a scene with more than one woman, the rule still applies unless they all, together, give their explicit verbal consent. There are plenty of condoms at our parties and it does not matter how many are used and discarded during a scene.

No promoting or selling

Our parties are not intended for business endeavors. Using our parties as a platform to promote other products or events is an exploitation of our hospitality.

Arrive on time

To ensure that everyone can fully enjoy the party, we kindly request guests to arrive within a specific timeframe, typically between 9 and 10 pm. We want to ensure you have the best night possible, our team can't do that if they must stand on door duty all night. Special arrangements can be made to admit couples late if a problem arises and we are notified in advance.

No professionals 

At our parties, couples are welcome to engage in any consensual sexual activity with each other, except for scenarios involving a client and a professional escort. Please refrain from attempting this, as it will be immediately noticeable.

Ejection from the venue

All of our rules are fair and sensible, aimed at ensuring everyone's enjoyment. If someone violates these rules, they will be asked to leave without a refund, and future event approvals could be withheld. Immediate and strict action is taken in response to complaints regarding breaches of condom protocol outlined in points 19 and 20 of the Rules. We take this matter extremely seriously and do not offer second chances to those who betray our trust.